Overcome The Obstacles In Life

ByDorothy M. Neddermeyer Ph.D.

Overcome The Obstacles In Life

As my clients illuminate the obstacles on their journey to wholeness, health and peace of mind, they all come to a moment when they meet their enemy. While no one is greatly excited to know who their enemy is, it is liberating to address the enemy head-on.

The foreword to The Pogo Papers,© 1952-53, the author writes about a rare native tree, the Presidential Timber, struck down in mid-sprout by the jawbone of a politician. Pogo returns to the swamp from several political conventions to find his unfinished business being rapidly finished, once and for all. Thus, who is the enemy of the forest? Not the weather, lightening, disease or insects, but human hands. Walt Kelly first used the quote, “We have met the enemy and he is us,” on a poster for Earth Day 1970. He created a two panel version with Pogo and Porky in a trash filled swamp.

What are your enemies? Are you unknowingly creating your enemies with your own hands? Are you your own enemy?  As a person ponders these poignant possibilities, she/he has resistance to allowing this truth to come into the light of day. The enemy runs deep within (as it does for everyone). There many reasons people hang onto beliefs that have become an enemy.

  • It doesn’t mean much if something comes with little effort – struggle is what makes the success sweeter.
  • Other people will be jealous, if they know things are easy for me. They won’t like me and/or respect me.
  • If things come easy for me—especially since many people have to work hard – I would be bragging or taking things for granted.
  • Everyone struggles and suffers—that is just how it is.
  • I use struggle as motivation to change, to succeed. Struggle is familiar—I have struggled all my life.
  • Some people struggle less than me – they are the lucky ones. I am not lucky.
  • The ability to work hard, overcome adversity and rise to the challenges are the things my ego uses to feel empowered and better than others.
  • If things come easy I can’t accept it; because it doesn’t seem that I deserve it.
  • Struggling allows me to avoid take responsibility for something in my life. I allow myself to avoid uncomfortable feelings, situations and circumstances I do not want to deal with.

Are you noticing a familiar discourse?  What are your beliefs about life?

Illuminating the reasons and beliefs you have about achieving your goals will be both a painful and eye opening ah-ha moment. As you think, talk and write about the blocks, bumps, steep hills and water under the bridge moments, you will realize how ridiculous some of your beliefs are. You will also realize how much of your energy you are giving away in the process.

It is as if you are going through life worried that someone will say, “You have it too easy,” and you are preparing for your defense statement.  “Oh yeah, if you think I have it easy, let me tell you how hard I work. You don’t want to know the challenges I have and how much work I had to do to overcome them.”

What is that about? You are preparing for an adversarial conversation that might remotely transpire. Yet, people run this dialogue in their head. Have you ever had this imaginary dialogue?

How much time and energy did you spend?

Working diligently, overcoming challenges and adversity and being passionately committed to important and complex tasks and goals in life are inherent to learn and evolve emotionally and spiritually. Resisting ease and being attached to struggle as a badge of honor causes one to become adversely stressed, anxious and in emotional pain. In nearly every case the majority of struggles are totally self-induced and unnecessary.

What if you allowed yourself to go through each task and achieve each goal with ease? What if you changed your thoughts and own each task and goal as your way to learn and evolve? What if you let go of the belief that life is a struggle and that you in particular are blessed with more struggle than others?

Achieving tasks and goals with ease does not mean you are lazy. Nor does it mean you are unwilling to work with passion, or that you expect a ‘free ride.’  Achieving tasks and goals with ease means you are willing to work things through, trusting all is well, and allow life to flow in a positive and dynamic way.

Your desire and ability to embrace life with ease isn’t selfish, arrogant, or unrealistic. Embracing life with ease is profoundly optimistic and will enhance your ability to impact others to do the same. The more focus and energy you place on surviving, getting by, and ‘striving’ for success, the less energy and time you have available to give, serve and make a difference in the world.

Albeit may seem counter intuitive to you, letting go of your belief ‘struggle’ is the best way you can show up in the world – both by your example and with your freed up positive energy you will impact the world with profound and dynamic energy.

If you are wondering, “How will I give up my habit of ‘struggle?’ you can use a creative reminder. You could put a large band-aid patch on your arm like the nicotine patch people wear to break their smoking habit. While it might seem silly or ridiculous, as you put the band-aid on; it is a reminder that you need to ‘change’ a habit.  You need to ‘change’ your ‘struggle,’ habit, just like a smoker needs to ‘change’ a smoking habit.  The band aid also represents your commitment to making the change and it will assist you in altering your perception of your Self and your life.

Richard Bach stated, ‘Argue for your limitations and they’re yours.” What if you stopped arguing about how ‘hard’ things are and argue that your life is filled with peace and ease?

Interesting that what you perceive to be a ‘struggle,’ might be perceived by others as merely a task at hand. The beliefs you have merely accepted may sustain an existing reality, but they will never create a new one.  Therefore, any perception or belief you hold is what you will experience

While the notion of things authentically being easy may not be, ironically, the easiest concept to embrace, I challenge you to take this on and become comfortable with it. It maybe easier than you think!

People weigh evidence, analyze and take measurements to answer, “What should I believe?” However, this is the wrong question. The right question is, “What do I want to believe?”  If you believe ‘struggle,’ is your friend; that is what you will experience. If you believe you can live life with ease; that is what you will experience.  “You experience what you believe. If you don’t believe that you experience what you believe, then you don’t, which still means the first statement is true.”  -Harry Palmer

“Banish the word ‘struggle’ from your attitude and your vocabulary. All that we do now must be done in a sacred manner and in celebration. We are the ones we have been waiting for.” — Hopi elders

This moment is the first moment of the rest of your life. What are you willing to do what it takes to claim your success?

There is no shame in asking for assistance to create success. If you have read the books, taken workshops, had psychic readings, etc. and still struggle; you might have emotional blocks preventing you from moving into what you desire.

P.S. I offer a 20 minute FREE no obligation phone conversation to answer your questions and discuss how health and wellness is possible. https://drdorothy.net

P.P.S. You are worth it. You deserve to create your desired success.

The choice is yours.  What choice will you make? ###

Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, Metaphysician – Certified Hypnosis and Regression Practitioner, Author and Speaker. Dr. Dorothy facilitates clearing blocks, fears and limiting beliefs. You can live the life you desire. She facilitates Past Life Regression and Future Life Progression. She was a World Regression Congress faculty member in the Netherlands, India, Brazil and Turkey.   https://drdorothy.net  http://facebook.com/DrDorothyNed