Your decisions contribute to your development and are an integral aspect of your evolving journey, yet, they are separate from who you truly are. A decision that fails to produce the intended outcome is in no way a confirmation of your character. Albeit, there can be dire effects on your ability to trust yourself and maintain your self-esteem. You can avoid becoming your decisions by affirming that a ‘bad decision’ is an experience and you can choose differently, next time. You need to avoid lingering in the past and mulling over the circumstances that led to your perceived error in judgment.
Forgiveness for oneself might sound selfish. However, being unwilling to forgive an egregious wrong, a slight, hurt or disappointment is analogues to drinking a little poison each moment you think about the ‘wrong’ that was committed and expect the other person to die.