When you over indulge your child(ren) with material goods, where is that motivation coming from, your own inner child?
One of the greatest wonders about children is that they have the innate ability to entertain themselves for long periods of time with simple things – a cardboard box, pots and pans, or plastic containers with lids. My daughter’s favorite one-year-old play activity was to stack the cans of soup, etc. into a tower as tall as herself. She engaged in this activity every day and was delighted with her achievement for a month or more before she tired of it. When she was five and up, she spent many hours building things with scrap wood and nails. Today, she is a highly skilled ‘Do It Yourself’ (DIY) expert.
Do you wonder why you feel the urge to buy your child(ren) toys that they seldom play with or are soon bored with? When you take the time to question your propensity to give your child(ren) new toys and clothes frequently – weekly, biweekly or daily, you will find that you have an internal sense of lack. Thus, you are buying things for your child(ren) to fill up your own empty feelings and pain. If you feel yourself wanting to indulge your child with material possessions, take a moment and go within to see if you can sense where your motivation is truly coming from.
When you take the time to go within you will get in touch with your desire to create a feeling of abundance that was lacking in your own childhood, or out of a need to feel liked by your child(ren). These two motives are unconscious, stemming from unresolved issues from your own childhood. These unresolved feelings naturally come up when you are parenting your child(ren).
Over indulging your child will not ease your pain or make it go away, only acknowledging and working on your emotional issues can do that. What your child(ren) really needs you to provide for them is both a sense of safety and a sense of freedom and love of which there can never be too much. If you are able to do this well, the urge to give material possessions will fade into the background.
If you are unable to eliminate your sense of lack, consider, engaging with a practitioner who specializes in Emotional and Spiritual Healing. Emotional and Spiritual Healing (ESH) allows you to access your hidden thoughts, feelings and negative energy – your past, present and future – as well as your subconscious. The process of Emotional and Spiritual Healing eliminates all negative thoughts, hurts, sadness, disappointment and energy on all levels of your mind, body and spirit.
Emotional and Spiritual Healing technique is an innovative and highly effective process to achieve goals, reduce stress and create happiness. It is direct, focused and combines creating the future while healing the past. In four hours you will make a subtle and effective transition to self-discovery and empowerment.
Every parent wants to provide their child(ren) with a good and happy life, but, you know deep down that material possessions play a very small role. You will confuse your child(ren) when you seek to make them happy through buying them things. When you buy things, they take your cue that happiness comes in the form of possessions and treats, rather than in the joy of being alive, surrounded by love, and free to explore the world.
‘If you do what you’ve always done, you’ll get what you’ve always gotten.’ -Attributed to Anthony Robbins. Consider it is important to give yourself the care and nurturing you deserve and you can pass it on to your children and grandchildren.
Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, Metaphysician – Certified Hypnosis Practitioner, Author and Speaker. Dr. Dorothy facilitates clearing blocks, fears and limiting beliefs. You can live the life you desire. She brings awareness to concepts not typically obvious to one’s thoughts and feelings. https://drdorothy.net