Self-esteem is the experience of feeling worthy of love and happiness and feeling capable of handling life’s challenges. We quickly begin to lose the healthy sense of self we are born with as we go through life’s many experiences. If our caregivers lack self-esteem, they will be unable to mirror back to us nor nurture it within us. Slowly, it is chipped away by authority figures, our peers, and society edicts. Out of lack of awareness, people might project onto others their own fears or failings. Or they might compel beliefs tofit a particular mold—which may have so little to do with who one is—that it can make one sick if she/he follows it. In this weakened state, the media can easily sway anyone into believing one is to follow in their parents, society makeup, a job, religion, fame, or money. The person then begins to mistake self love with selfishness, or selfishness with self-love. When one loses self-esteem, one becomes codependent on others for approval and a sense of self.
Although you are born with healthy esteem, it slowly dissipates as our sense of self gets buried alive by critical or hurtful parental and societal messages. These messages destroy our belief in our self; parental and society derails us into operating out of logic and practicality without regard to our desires, intuition, or true needs. We then begin to believe we are unworthy of anything good. These critical voices suppress our healthy esteem and sense of knowing. In its place, we develop a shallow view of life and ourselves that is stultifying. When we have self worth, we can stand in the power of love. When we lose the self, we settle for the love of power or no power at all.
It is difficult to pass on a sense of esteem or self-love when you don’t possess it yourself. You are your parent’s promise. You have come to complete what they cannot and to break the chain of dysfunction in your family lineage.
Through Deep Hypnosis Transformation, you can learn to set boundaries around all the crippling critical voices and make room for the voice that carries your esteem, the still, empowered voice you were born with and are now meant to reclaim.