Family and Friends – Hold The Mirror For Your Spiritual Growth

There are many who believe we incarnate in soul groups – often referred to as ‘soul mates.’ When the majority of people think of soul mates, they think of the romantic side of the equation, believing a soul mate is the person with whom one will have a better and richer life. While ultimately this is true, there are some stepping stones along the way, experiences one needs to accomplish and when those are accomplished a soul mate steps in.

Everyone has soul mates in all arrays of life. Soul mates are souls who have agreed to travel together throughout many life times. Those who are closest to you – family members, including, aunts, uncles, cousins – and close friends all agree to reincarnate together to support each other in their mission and purpose. Likewise, you agreed to be here for each one to support their mission and purpose.

When you meet someone new who is in your soul group, you will notice the feeling that he/she is familiar or you have known this person for a long time even though you met them for the first time. You might notice their ambitions and general outlook in life are the same as yours. You might notice they share the same projects and strive for the same goals, albeit there are challenges in these relationships too.

When you meet a soul mate who was your partner in a previous lifetime, the moment your eyes meet, you notice a strong bond – an inexplicable attraction, faster heart beat, a weakness in your knees, butterflies and sometimes it seems like your breath is taken away. You both look different in this lifetime, of course. However, the eyes are the window to the soul and when your eyes meet, you remember each other, albeit, you might not believe in past lives. Without you consciously remembering, your soul knows it all – the pain and the joy.

It is important to accept whatever pain a soul mate causes you, it is out of a soul agreement and love. It is done to open your eyes to what you need to accomplish, thereby, overcoming your pain and hurt emotions from another time that is being triggered in this life.

You have heard about the Law of Cause and Effect – Karma (What goes around comes around). Your ‘soul mate’ is merely reflecting back to you what is inside you that you need to resolve. Only a soul that loves you and has agreed to assist you in your mission and purpose would know exactly what you need.

How often do you thank your family and friends for being who they are and caring about you? How often do you notice they are true to a fault for you? The reason they are true to a fault is because they agreed to hold up the perfect mirror for you to see what you need to resolve.

In the play, “Wicked,” the main character says, “I have been changed for good because I knew you. Because I knew you, I have been changed for good.” Notice the poignancy of that statement.

How have your family and friends changed your life for the better? What have they compelled you to notice in yourself? Albeit, you might have become annoyed at their repeated behavior to bring it to your attention, look beyond your annoyance and see the true meaning of their behavior.

Pause now. Recall each close family member and friend. Remind yourself what each brings to you. Notice how powerful your friends are and how much your life is impacted because he/she is in your life.

Now contact each family member. Tell him/her, “Because you are my (mother, father, brother, sister, aunt uncle, grandparent), I have learned many things. I am different and my life is better.” Call your close friends and make this statement to each friend.

When you reflect back on this gesture of expressing your appreciation for each person in your life, you will notice the profound impact you received from each person. Furthermore, you gave yourself and the other person a wonderful gift only you could give.

Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, Metaphysician – Certified Hypnosis Practitioner, Author and Speaker. Dr. Dorothy facilitates clearing blocks, fears and limiting beliefs. You can live the life you desire. She brings awareness to concepts not typically obvious to one’s thoughts and feelings.