Forgiveness for oneself might sound selfish. However, being unwilling to forgive an egregious wrong, a slight, hurt or disappointment is analogues to drinking a little poison each moment you think about the ‘wrong’ that was committed and expect the other person to die.
Forgiving is an act of cleansing your mental field. Forgiveness cleanses misunderstandings, and elevates you to a higher vibration. Forgiveness is a shift in perception, which removes a barrier to the awareness of who you truly are and of Love’s presence.
Humans have the power to charge every experience with an opinion and then decide whether it is ‘good’ or ‘bad’, ‘right’ or ‘wrong.’ When you claim something is ‘bad’ or ‘wrong’ you have simply removed yourself from the opportunity to transform that experience, claim it’s good and use that good as a lever for your ever-upward movement in the glorious spiral of becoming who you truly are.
Pause now. Ponder the poignancy of this truth. When you are unwilling to forgive you are stopping your ever-upward movement in the Universe’s energetic flow – the glorious upward spiral of becoming who you truly are. Who you are is a loving, caring being – a human being having a spiritual experience and a spiritual being having a human experience.
Many people mistakenly believe if they forgive the ‘wrong,’ it let’s the other person(s) off the hook. Yet, this is a misperception. Buddhists know the Universal Laws function in a spiral of energy. This spiral of energy moves in a circular motion – what goes around comes around. Buddhists call this phenomenon Karma. Therefore, whether you forgive the seemingly ‘unforgiveable’ act, you are the only one suffering now. The aggressor probably does not know they committed a ‘wrong,’ of if she/he knows, does not believe his/her behavior was ‘wrong.’ And you continue to drink the poison of anger and resentment expecting him/her to die. Allow the Universal Laws to manage the Karma she/he created for her/himself.
You can merely remove the negative charge, shift your perception and the good that is ever-present in your life experiences can make itself known.
Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, Metaphysician – Certified Hypnosis Practitioner, Author and Speaker. Dr. Dorothy connects people to principles that resonate in the deepest part of their being. She brings awareness to concepts not typically obvious to one’s daily thoughts and feelings. https://drdorothy.net