How Sex Offenders Con and Dupe Society

ByDorothy M. Neddermeyer Ph.D.

The facts of child sexual abuse are buried in the heap of misinformation, and society’s propensity to turn a blind eye, put their head in the sand, or flat out deny such a thing is prevalent. Sexual abuse is prevalent in many families, extended family, neighbors, schools, sports activities, clergy, medical facilities, doctors–pediatricians, psychiatrists, counselors, social workers, psychologist, child care and parents/ grandparents, siblings, or older siblings of childhood friends, sex cults, and the list is unending.

As I learned from assisting sexual abuse survivors to transform their trauma from sexual abuse, the cons and duping a sex offender uses to covertly sexually abuse children are endless. It is important to know that sexual abuse survivors can transform all the trauma, symptoms, and diagnosis caused by sexual abuse.

In 1993, A 13-year-old boy, Jordan Chandler reported sexual abuse by Michael Jackson.[2] The abuse as reported took place at Jackson’s Neverland Ranch home in Santa Barbara, California.[3] In January 1994, Jackson settled the lawsuit made against him for $23 million, with $5 million going to the family’s lawyers. Prosecutors pursued the criminal case and presented the evidence to two separate grand juries, neither of which indicted.[1][4][5]    

It is unfathomable for the majority of people to believe the legendary Michael Jackson who ‘loved’ children and donated money to many families and child charities would be a pedophile or ephebophile. The boys who told their experiences with Michael were denounced as ingrateful fame seekers and a ploy to extort money from Michael.

 Although, the media reported the Michael Jackson case thoroughly for the duration of his trial what was tragically lacking are the facts regarding pedophiles/ephebophiles and sexual child abuse.

On November 18, 2003, with a search warrant police searched Neverland Ranch. Jackson and his three children were in Las Vegas, where Jackson was shooting a music video for his single “One More Chance“.[19][20] Jackson was arrested on November 20.[21] He was released an hour later after posting a $3 million bond.[19]

Shortly after the arrest, Jackson issued a statement saying the claims were “predicated on a big lie”.[21] In an interview with the news program 60 Minutes, Jackson said the police had mistreated him and complained of a dislocated shoulder. He reaffirmed his innocence and said that he was determined not to settle out of court as he had done in 1993.[22] In August 2004, the California attorney general’s office concluded, after an independent investigation, that Jackson was neither “manhandled” nor mistreated when he was taken into custody.[23]

On December 18, 2003, Jackson was charged with seven counts of child molestation and two counts of administering an intoxicating agent for the purpose of committing a felony.[24] On January 16, 2004, the day of his arraignment, Jackson climbed on top of his car to dance and wave to fans.[25][26] On April 21, 2004, a grand jury indicted Jackson on several additional related charges, including conspiracy involving child abduction, false imprisonment, and extortion.[3] Jackson pleaded not guilty on April 30.[27] He faced a sentence of up to eighteen years in prison if convicted at trial.[28]

The jury deliberated for about 32 hours over seven days.[78] On the initial vote, nine jurors voted to acquit Jackson, while three voted guilty.[79] On June 13, 2005, they returned a verdict of not guilty on all charges.[78] Jurors found the prosecution’s case weak and the timeline of accusations problematic because they had claimed the molestation occurred after the broadcast of the documentary when the world’s attention was on Jackson and Gavin. One juror believed the mother was a scam artist.[66]

In a news conference held after the trial, a juror said, “We expected better evidence, something that was a little more convincing. It just wasn’t there.”[80] Sneddon suggested that Jackson’s celebrity status and the media may have influenced the verdict.[65] The jury foreman, a retired high school counselor, said, “We looked at all the evidence and we looked at Michael Jackson and one of the first things we decided was we had to look at him just as another person and not a celebrity.”[66]

Pedophilia:

Pedophilia refers to adult sexual preference for prepubescent children–infancy to age 13 for girls and age 14 for boys. However, the term pedophilia is commonly used to refer to any sexual interest in minors below the legal age of consent, regardless of their level of physical, mental, or psychological development.

Ephebophilia:

Ephebophilia is the primary or exclusive adult sexual interest in mid-to-late adolescents, generally ages 15 to 19. It is one of a number of sexual preferences across age groups subsumed under the technical term “chronophilia”. Ephebophilia strictly denotes the preference for mid-to-late adolescent sexual interest, not the mere presence of some level of sexual attraction. In sexual ethics, it may be defined as a sexual preference for girls generally 14–16 years old, and boys generally 14–19 years old. Some authors define ephebophilia as a sexual preference for pubescent and adolescent boys. In research environments, specific terms are used for chronophilias: for instance, ephebophilia refers to the sexual preference for mid-to-late adolescents, and hebephilia refers to the sexual preference for earlier pubescent individuals.

Studies reveal that 62% of girls and 31% of boys will be sexually abused by age 18–considered low based on health services.

–80% are sexually abused by a family member

–19% are abused by someone the child knows and trusts

–1% according to government statistics are abused by strangers

The unbelievable truth: Pedophiles/Ephebophiles conduct themselves as average and ordinary to the world. He or she may be a leader in the church; the community; or business. Pedophiles/ephebophiles seldom fit a classic stereotype–education, socioeconomic status, career, or culture.

Furthermore, sexual abuse/incest is more difficult to believe or accept when the person we like, admire, love, and/or marry is the perpetrator. This is precisely why Jackson’s family, fans and the uninformed can unequivocally believe he could not possibly be an Ephebophile–sexual attraction to adolescents.

Pedophiles/Ephebophiles are cunning predators with a honed mode of operation. They are experts at manipulation, thus escaping adult reality. They feel entitled, justifying their actions as loving; not harming the child. They expend considerable energy maintaining this illusion to themselves and others. They create a persona of goodness beyond reproach. They go to great lengths to present themselves as exemplary people, who love children. Jackson’s defense attorney, Mesereau, invoked this convoluted tactic in response to the judge’s ruling that previous accounts of sexual abuse claims, which were settled and were admissible. Mesereau countered, “He [Jackson] also has spent millions on children with AIDS. We can drown them with examples of where Mr. Jackson has been so benevolent, so generous, so charitable, so giving for good causes, that it will make their theory look silly.”

Mesereau’s statement exemplifies, that anyone who sees through the perpetrator’s façade is met with admonishment and rebuke for being critical, irrational, racist, out-to-get the person, and/or jealous. The perpetrator is the family emperor with no clothes. “I know my son, and this is ridiculous,” Jackson’s mother, Katherine Jackson, said in an interview on CBS “The Early Show.” She said people who believe Michael is guilty “don’t know him.” Jackson’s father said his son was beloved around the world but had trouble in the United States because of racism. He said the accuser’s motives were clear: “It’s about money.”

Even more frightening Pedophiles/Ephebophiles do not hold beliefs reflecting society’s moral and ethical values. Therefore, coupled with the child’s innocence and trust of the abuser usually pressure or violence is seldom required. Thus, the perpetrator can unequivocally state, “I love children. Never-ever. I could never harm a child or anyone. It’s not in my heart. It’s not who I am.” –Michael Jackson, 1993.

There is another insidious aspect to Jackson’s contact with adolescents–he flaunts the relationship as ‘sweet and innocent’ admonishing anyone for believing it is sexual. Using the definition of sexual abuse, Jackson’s befriending adolescent boys under the guise of helping them with a life-threatening illness and/or sleeping with them, albeit, he slept on the floor and the child slept in his bed, is in and of itself sexual abuse.

“Incest is both sexual abuse and abuse of power. It is violence that does not require force. Another is using the victim, treating them in a way that they do not want or in a way that is not appropriate by a person with whom a different relationship is required. It is abuse because it does not take into consideration the needs or wishes of the child; rather, it meets the needs of the other person at the child’s expense. If the experience has sexual meaning for another person, in lieu of a nurturing purpose for the benefit of the child, it is abuse. If it is unwanted or inappropriate for her age or the relationship, it is abuse. Incest [sexual abuse] can occur through words, sounds, or even exposure of the child to sights or acts that are sexual but do not involve her. If she is forced to see what she does not want to see, for instance, by an exhibitionist, it is abuse. If a child is forced into an experience that is sexual in content or overtone that is abuse.

As long as the child is induced into sexual activity with someone who is in a position of greater power, whether that power is derived through the perpetrator’s age, size, status, or relationship, the act is abusive. A child who cannot refuse, or who believes she or he cannot refuse, is a child who has been violated.” (E. Sue Blume, Secret Survivors).

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