How To Shift The ‘Fit In’ Paradigm

More often than not, children are conditioned and rewarded to ‘fit in,’ through parental indoctrination, media, advertising and social establishments—religion, culture, education and society.

While children need to learn manners, social etiquette, values and integrity, they also need guidance to experience life on their terms. Expressing one’s uniqueness against these multi-layered ‘fit in,’ messages are difficult to navigate.

Children as young as one-year-old are labeled rebellious or obstinate as he/she press to express his/her unique character. Then, the pre-teen and teen years when children are naturally in their separation/individuation period, the rebellious or obstinate label is strongly applied, thus, setting up a power struggle between parent and child and society edicts.

Fast forward to adulthood, and the ‘fit in,’ edict begins to work against those who complied with it. Others are forging ahead ‘out side,’ the indoctrinated confines of ‘fitting in,’ which creates a strong conflict for those who are still abiding by the ‘fit in,’ paradigm.

Those who complied with the ‘fit in,’ paradigm need to shift to a more expansive outlook on life. An expansive outlook can inspire you to explore ideas and beliefs that others in your social strata have deemed subversive.

As you contemplate how drastically your life will change when you integrate these bold concepts into your day-to-day experience, you may feel a growing sense of pride. As you step out of the ‘fit in,’ paradigm, you might notice yourself being eager to resist the path of conformity. You will notice you are no longer subject to the pressure others put upon you to play by the rules.

Pause now. This minute is the first minute of the rest of your life. It is a perfect moment to devote yourself to a path of learning that includes both traditional philosophy and those outlandish notions you have previously been unwilling to entertain.

You will discover a whole new world of avenues of belief and behavior that are open to you when you choose to explore the regions that lie outside the status quo or traditional conditioning of ‘fitting in.’ Your behavior shift might anger or irritate those who wish you to follow a more traditional path, but the lesson you learn while investigating more expansive viewpoints will outweigh the inherent potential for conflict.

Your shift can be devoid of aggression or rancor, but, will require you to challenge yourself and your established beliefs about yourself and others. Going against your established grain can be a stress producing and uncertain process.

When you accept the responsibility of the inherent challenges and move forward anyway, you will certainly triumph over the course of your life’s journey. As you boldly buck the ‘fit in’ system you will find yourself immersed in a wide range of possibilities and you will be glad you entertained and created a more expansive life for yourself.

Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, Metaphysician – Certified Hypnosis and Regression Practitioner, Author and Speaker. Dr. Dorothy facilitates Emotional and Spiritual Healing (ESH) for all diagnoses – clearing baggage, fears and limiting beliefs. Then, you can live the life you desire. She brings awareness to concepts not typically obvious to one’s daily thoughts and feelings.