allow. Ironically you do not see what you are building/creating even though you designed the blueprint! Until one moment you have an epiphany.” – Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, Ph.D.
The human brain was designed to work non-stop 24/7. Yes, your dreams are your brain processing data. It does a good job. Your brain was built to determine the next big thing to “fix.” This is a great thing. It is because of this cognitive feature that humans have evolved the way they have. It is fascinating to think about how the major changes people have accomplished–from major industry (agriculture, health, education religion, travel) out of some specific need. Death, disorder, starvation, meaninglessness have been part of the equation. The part of the brain that controls rumination, also manages creativity. There is no coincidence.
Thus, if you believe you can’t stop worrying, can’t stop creating problems for yourself, shift your anxiety from one corner of your life to the next. If you can’t sit back and enjoy and be grateful and happy, it’s not because there’s something wrong with you. There is only something wrong with your understanding of the human brain and happiness.
We weren’t built to be “happy” in the way that we think of happiness—carefree, grateful, excited.
We were born to create.
Mental, emotional suffering isn’t inherent.
Suffering dissolves when we focus on creating what we desire rather than reacting to life’s vicissitudes. In other words instead of being impacted at the whim of how things ARE, focus on how you can create what you desire in spite of what exists.
Good and bad become irrelevant when the focus isn’t “What can I enjoy” but “What will I create?”
Looking at everything as an opportunity, obstacles become opportunities. Life becomes an incredible and fascinating journey.
The Universe consistently creates. Nature constantly creates. Everything is creative. You are creating cells and thoughts as you read this. You are creating Co2 as you exhale. Each time you are with someone you love, you are creating your relationship. Each time you work, you are creating money, you are creating skill. You are consistently creating. You create your misery, success, and happiness. The choice is yours.
Suffering is what you create when you stop creating happiness and success. Rather than devise the next step for your life, you ruminate on all that isn’t right rather than what is right. Rather than imagine previously inconceivable opportunities, you assume nothing better is possible. Rather than taking control of your life, you assume an attitude of powerlessness and helplessness. You suffer, meaninglessly.
When your focus is on creating, pain becomes an integral part of the process. You’ve heard the cliche`’no gain without pain.’ It’s “worth it.” You’re no longer dividing your emotional experiences between “things that feel good to the senses,” and “things that don’t.” You’re diving into “things that are worthwhile” and “things that aren’t.” You’re being discerning about discomfort. You’re evolving and growing. You’re expanding your capacity to manage your experience to think, create, love, BE.
Creativity is not exclusive to the arts, as we tend to think. Everything is creative. Every last second and part of your life. Creativity is not necessarily a burst of emotional passion, it can be a habituated choice.
In your choices, there is a different kind of happiness, one that is not passive, but active. Instead of struggling to reap the benefits and joy out of the world other people have created, you embark on your true mission, which is to create yourself in the world. That is how you leave a lasting impression and legacy. That is how you create real, deep, sustainable happiness—in creating what is inside of you that shows up on the outside.
Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, Ph.D. Metaphysician, Certified Hypnosis Practitioner, International Best Selling Author and Speaker, is an International recognized authority on bridging Science and Human Potential. She facilitates clearing emotional/ mental blocks, fears, and limiting beliefs. You can live the life you desire. She brings awareness to concepts not typically obvious to one’s thoughts and feelings.