Humor – Find Your Other Funny Bone

A sense of humor is one of the most attractive and valuable features one has. When you look for the humor in a situation, not only will you find it, it can ease a difficult situation. Having a sense of humor can be more attractive than all the make-up, clothes, accessories, perfume, cars, vacations, houses and stuff combined.

To women, men who compel them to laugh are more attractive than money and GQ looks. As is said in the movie business, funny is money. Men value women who have a great sense of humor, too.

The one answer most people, who have been married 40+ years, give when asked, ‘What is your secret to having a long relationship, is: “A sense of humor. You need to laugh at yourself and not take everything your partner does or says too serious.” Thus, it is clear that if you want to keep your relationship on track, keep perfecting a sense of humor.

The funniest thing about humor is that it does more than compel people to laugh. Humor also helps people to get acquainted, bond and strangers to feel welcome. Deftly used, humor can improve relationships, promote creativity, energize communication and encourage positive thinking

How can one develop or perfect a sense of humor? What compels you to laugh – cerebral, absurd or whimsical wit? Listen to your favorite comedians. Monty Python, George Carlin, Phyllis Diller, Jack Benny, George Burns and Gracie Allen (I am giving my age away) are some of my favorites and the list goes on. Gracie Allen played the straight person and George was considered the ‘funny guy.’ They were the ultimate funny couple on and off stage.  People, who are described as having a good sense of humor or comedians, find humor in everything, because they see the paradoxical side or ironies in life.

The following suggestions will start your funny bone:

  • Use puns, parodies, paradoxes, props and silly pranks
  • Tell stories about yourself (avoid self-deprecation) unless you want to be remembered as the brother/sister of Rodney Dangerfield
  • Tell stories using anecdotes that are relevant and pertinent to the moment
  • Exaggerate and alternately understate details, be sure to let your listener in on the exaggeration or understated detail at the precise moment they might think you are giving real details
  • Use gestures and facial expressions opposite to your words
  • Use metaphors that are literal, but contradict what you are saying
  • Tell a funny story that proves your point
  • Laugh at yourself or the joke you told
  • Avoid canned jokes that have no connection to the conversation
  • Avoid sarcasm, put downs or act superior
  • Avoid humor that the listener might not understand because of culture, profession, gender or age
  • Avoid playing practical jokes designed to embarrass people
  • Avoid off-color stories


A good sense of humor is analogous to the old adage, “The unexamined life is not worth living,”  “The life you can’t laugh at isn’t worth living.”

Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, Metaphysician – Certified Hypnosis and Regression Practitioner, Author and Speaker. Dr. Dorothy facilitates clearing blocks, fears and limiting beliefs. You can live the life you desire. She brings awareness to concepts not typically obvious to one’s thoughts and feelings.