The behavioral aftereffect of sexual abuse or incest is very subtle. Men acting tough and aggressive and women acting weak and helpless are classic examples. The tougher the man acts is in exact correlation to his feelings of vulnerability, shame, guilt and weakness. The more weak and helpless the woman acts is in exact correlation to her feelings of vulnerability, guilt, shame and powerlessness. Sexual abuse or incest robs the person of a carefree childhood. Buried deep inside the survivor is a wounded child who needs acceptance and nurturing. As long as the survivor hates, ignores, denies, or fears that vulnerable, childlike aspect of themselves, their relationships remain superficial.