Sex Addiction Definition:
The traditional behavior labeled Sex Addiction refers to a range of thoughts and behaviors that are done in excess and significantly impact one’s life in many negative ways. More accurately Sex Addiction is a compulsion to distract or soothe oneself from relenting mental/emotional, physical and/or sexual abuse trauma. Contrary to popular belief sexual compulsive behavior can be healed at the unconscious and cellular level without psychotropic drugs, years of psychotherapy and/or behavioral therapy.
Research reveals there is a clear prevalence of adverse sexual thoughts and behavior that is similar in development to a “substance” addiction. The initial onset is socially acceptable, yet, has a strong compelling component that is a compulsion vs the natural sex drive. Not unlike ‘substance’ addiction, sexual compulsions seems to have an unending level to reach satiation. Like ‘substance’ addiction, sexual compulsion has a clear and relentless pattern of progression, albeit the progression is individualistic and undeniably negative not only to one’s relationships and more significantly to oneself.
A compulsion to use Porn and/or Sexual Compulsivity go hand-in-hand for some, but not all sexually compulsive people. Initially porn is an easy and readily available source of gratification to satisfy a person’s sexual compulsion. Needless to say, engaging in porn has a clear and relentless pattern of progression. Using porn as a strategy to reach sexual satiation leads to serious distress and consequences in many facets of one’s life.
Sexual Compulsions are the result of a vain attempt to mitigate the mental, emotional, physical and sexual trauma in childhood—for some less than a year old to teenage and sometimes beyond. The vain attempt to mitigate menal, emotional, physical and sexual pain and compulsion results in compulsions to:
- Excessive Masturbation or fantasy
- Sadistic or masochistic behavior
- Submissive or Dominating behavior
- Exhibition/Voyeurism
- Pornography
- Prostitution—male and female
- LGBT – Gender confusion
- Other excessive sexual pursuits
- In a moth to the flame fashion, sexual abuse of children
The Signs, Symptoms, and Effects of Sexual Compulsion are mental, emotional, physical and sexual dysfunctions. Furthermore, it’s important to know the debilitating effects for relationships.
For the partner, who thought she/he was in a monogamous relationship the revelation that they have been cheated on and lied to on a vast scale may prompt them to wonder what, if anything, is true about their relationship, and they may begin to wonder if it is possible to reestablish the kind of trust with and in their significant other that is needed if they are to continue building a life together. It is imperative the partner of a sexually compulsive seek his/her own recovery individually and as a couple.
Emotional Symptoms of Sexual Compulsion:
If you or someone you love suffers from a sexual compulsive behavior, your boundaries may be weak or exploited. If your wife/husband/ significant other compulsively uses porn or sex, you may feel alienated, isolated, depressed, angry, or humiliated and need assistance to regain your identity and peace of mind.
If you have sexual compulsions, you might become easily involved with people sexually or emotionally regardless of how well you know them, according to Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous. The majority of sexually compulsive people fear being abandoned, they might stay in relationships that aren’t healthy, or they may jump from relationship to relationship. When alone, they might feel empty or incomplete. They might also sexualize feelings—anger, guilt, loneliness or fear.
Physical Symptoms of Sex Compulsivity:
Although, sexual compulsion or pornography compulsion can create many physical side effects, few physical symptoms of this disorder exist. The most common physical sex addict symptoms you might notice from having a sexual addiction is feeling immobilized due to sexual or emotional urges.
After Effects of Sexual Compulsions:
The after effects of a sexual compulsion can be severe. The internal mental, emotional, physical and sexual pain is excruciating beyond words or comprehension. Thus, people are labeled as disgusting degenerates with little hope of redemption.
According to Departmental Management of the USDA, about 38% of men and 45% of women with sexually compulsive people have a venereal disease as a result of their vain attempt to mitigate their pain.
Pregnancy is also a common side effect that can occur due to risky behavior. In one survey, nearly 70% of women with sexually compulsive person reported they’d experienced at least one unwanted pregnancy as a result.
Additionally, sexual compulsions likely has a negative impact on several areas of one’s life. It can lead to:
- A decline in personal relationships, social, and family engagement.
- Decreased concentration and productivity at work
- Physical consequences like sexual dysfunction or sexually transmitted diseases (STDs)
- Profound psychological effects, like generating feelings of shame, guilt, humiliation, inadequacy, and emotional distress. It can lead to:
-Anxiety
-Panic Attacks
-Depression
-Substance abuse
-Problems related to compulsions and emotional dysregulation
-Obsessive-Compulsive type symptoms
-Feeling powerless over how you act sexually
-Sexual choices are making your life unmanageable.
-Feel shame, embarrassment or even self-loathing about yourself
-Promising yourself you’ll change, but fail to keep those promises
-Preoccupied with sex; sex has become a sought after ritual
It is important to know that addressing these co-occurring issues in one’s life is the recovery process from sexual compulsive behavior.
If you also have a co-occurring substance addiction (e.g., alcohol, cocaine, cigarettes, heroine) these issues will become a non-issue when the mental, emotional, physical and/or sexual pain has been eliminated.
If you answered, ‘yes.’ to one or more of the above sexually compulsive indicators, it is important to consult with a Certified Deep Healing professional for an assessment and recovery plan.
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