Being critical and judgmental of oneself is one of the key components of human ego consciousness that is the most damaging. Your propensity for criticism and judgment are both overt and subtle. Recognizing that you are being critical and judgmental is half the battle of changing it.
For example, if you find it difficult to readily and graciously accept compliments, this is a sign that you tend to be critical and judgmental of yourself. Other ways in which this tendency expresses itself include seldom being satisfied with a job well done. When one seldom is satisfied with a job well done one is telling oneself, ‘You are not good enough.’ You are demanding that you be and do better and more often than not, get mad at yourself for not living up to high expectations. Being mad at yourself indicates that you need to rescue yourself from the learned ability to be unkind to yourself.
In short, when you are demanding and seldom allow yourself to ‘measure up,’ you send the message that you are ‘not good enough.’ Whenever you do this, you do damage that will need to be addressed later, and you sap your system of much-needed energy to do the tasks at hand. Being demanding of oneself is a waste of precious time and energy that you could use in positive ways.
When you understand the dynamics, you can think of the times when someone implied you were not ‘good enough.’ You certainly will recognize the feeling, but when you intentionally tune into it, you instinctively know that it is harmful on every level. When you understand the root of being critical and judgmental you can let go of its frantic nature. You can make informed and healthy choices. You can choose to love and accept yourself. You can engage your multitude of talents into a glorified expression of the Divine within.
Like any bad habit, being demanding of oneself can be a challenge to release. However, the more you feel the burden it place on your, the more motivated you will be to change.
The first step is to notice when you are being unreasonably demanding by noticing that you feel inadequate – ‘not good enough.’ As your awareness becomes more acute, your innate impulse toward kindness and well-being will be activated. Thus, you will know to move out of the ‘demand’ mode and into a positive and more natural mode of understanding and acceptance of yourself and your innate capabilities.
Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, Metaphysician – Certified Hypnosis Practitioner, Author and Speaker. Dr. Dorothy facilitates clearing blocks, fears and limiting beliefs. You can live the life you desire. She brings awareness to concepts not typically obvious to one’s thoughts and feelings. https://drdorothy.net