When your emotional buttons are pushed, what do you do? Do you feel like a victim. Do You lash back? You might have pushed somebody else’s button, with or without knowing it, what do you do?
Ironically, the emotional button pusher might not be conscious of what he/she is doing. However, in the end the emotional buttons others push belong to you. You are the one, who needs to deal with what comes up. The more you take responsibility for your feelings and reactions, the less the other person can push your emotional buttons. You are in control – not the button pusher.
Everyone experiences having someone snap angrily or aggressively, seemingly out of nowhere. This transpires when you unconsciously push a button in someone else you did not know was one of his/her buttons. This can occur with a stranger and sometimes with a person you know well and have been close to for many years.
Furthermore, you might have a relationship with someone whose buttons you secretly like to push. Buttons are simply soft spots that have been pushed one too many times, and they symbolize some pain that needs to be acknowledged and healed. This soft spot might be a childhood wound or some recent trauma that you need to process adequately.
In any case, when your buttons get pushed, the person, who most needs your attention and caring is yourself. Blaming the button pusher only distracts you from finding a true resolution to your suffering.
If someone pushes your emotional buttons you need to set an emotional boundary–like a fire wall for a computer virus. Repeated button pushing could be because the person finds pleasure or satisfaction in seeing your reaction. When you process the root cause, the reason for the soft spot, you will no longer have a reaction. Therefore, the button pusher gets no pleasure or satisfaction, because you are no longer reacting.
In the end, knowing where your emotional buttons are enables you to do the work necessary to heal them. They can no longer be pushed and therefore you are in control of your experience. Freedom comes when you deal with the pain behind the emotional button, thus, dissolving your automatic reaction when someone looks to get a reaction from you.
Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, Metaphysician – Certified Hypnosis Practitioner, Author and Speaker. Dr. Dorothy facilitates clearing blocks, fears and limiting beliefs. You can live the life you deisre. She brings awareness to concepts not typically obvious to one’s thoughts and feelings. http://www.drdorothy.net