The Impact of a Narcissistic Parent’s Death on the Scapegoated or Favored Child

The impact of a narcissistic parent’s death on the scapegoated child can vary depending on the specific circumstances and the individual’s coping mechanisms. While the death of a narcissistic parent may bring relief or a sense of liberation for some, it doesn’t automatically guarantee the immediate end of emotional struggles or the internalized patterns of self-sabotage.

The favored child might be lost or floundering, because their every need was addressed as quickly as possible during their childhood. Therefore, the favored child has few tools or mechanisms to navigate their life. If the favored child is married she/he has a partner who caters to his/her every whim. However, she or he will demand more from his or her partner as the relationship continues with a pattern of codependency.

Here are a few factors to consider:

  1. Grieving Process: The death of a parent, regardless of their personality traits, often triggers a complex grieving process. The child may experience a mix of emotions, including relief, sadness, guilt, and even anger. It’s important to allow oneself to grieve and seek support during this time.
  2. Internalized Patterns: Children of narcissistic parents often internalize negative beliefs about themselves. These patterns may not disappear overnight. Therapy or counseling can be beneficial to help identify and address these deep-seated beliefs, fostering healing and personal growth.
  3. Legacy of Narcissistic Abuse: The effects of narcissistic parenting can leave a lasting impact, and it might take time and effort to overcome these challenges. The child may need to work on rebuilding self-esteem, establishing healthier boundaries, and developing a positive self-image.
  4. External Support: The support system around the individual, including friends, family, or mental health professionals, plays a crucial role in their post-parental relationship journey. A strong support system can help the individual navigate the complexities of emotions and provide assistance in the healing process.
  5. Personal Growth: While the death of a narcissistic parent may remove a direct source of manipulation and control, personal growth is an ongoing process. Breaking free from self-sabotaging behaviors and overcoming guilt for success may require self-reflection, resilience, and a commitment to positive change.

It’s important to note that each person’s experience is unique, and there is no one-size-fits-all answer. Seeking professional guidance from a Certified Transformation Hypnosis professional with experience in narcissistic abuse can be particularly helpful in navigating these complexities and supporting the healing process.