Three Secrets Behind ‘The Secret’

Do you remember when you learned about the Law of Attraction? Maybe you knew about and used the Law of Attraction without the hoopla that now surrounds it since the movie, ‘The Secret’ became a world sensation.  

For many ‘The Secret’ was their first awareness of manifesting one’s desires through the Law of Attraction.  You might clearly remember thinking; ‘Wow! I can make my dreams come true – Finally!’  While the Law of Attraction seemed like a magic solution to past travail and failures, many people saw their hopes dwindle into frustration. I hear many people lament this rude reality.  Did you (be honest) lament one or more of the following? 

  • The Law of Attraction works for other people, why doesn’t it work for me?
  • The Law of Attraction isn’t all it is cracked up to be.  I just don’t get it.
  • I am frustrated and disappointed – Sometimes I get it to work and sometimes I can’t. What am I doing wrong?
  • It seems easy for everyone except me. I am having so much trouble.
  • The universe is against me.
  • I am working very hard, but still nothing happens.
  • The author of ‘The Secret’ simply told little white lies about her Law of Attraction  success. 

While it might seem that you are alone, you are not. About 96% of people have difficulty making the Law of Attraction work every time in the beginning. Think about everything you do in life that you need to practice doing many times before you see success.  You did not learn to walk without falling down many times. Olympic athletes did not become champions over night. 

Manifesting your desires is no different. Everything is easier said than done. When you are frustrated, it is more difficult to stay aligned with the Law of Attraction. And it is especially more difficult to stay positive when you perceive the evidence around you is all negative; such as the unstable economy or senseless acts of violence; such as Arizona State Representative, Gabrielle Gifford being shot at pointblank range during a community gathering. 

Of course, you know what transpires when you have difficulty staying positive. You attract negative things into your life. Negativity sabotages manifesting. The dilemma is how to make the Law of Attraction work without becoming frustrated.  How do those who are consistently successful in implementing the Law of Attraction doing it with such confidence? 

There are three critical behaviors you need to master so that you will avoid feeling frustrated or disillusioned by the universal laws, thus, you will know how to manifest like a pro.  These behaviors are:  

  • Allowing yourself to receive the gifts that you deserve. The gifts you deserve to receive are your desires. What are your desires?  Claim yours. Just like a child who whines incessantly – I want, I want, I want, I want – there is no room to allow the gift to be given. It is the same with your mind. If the only thing in your mind is incessantly ‘wanting, wanting, wanting to manifest – you are not allowing yourself to receive.


Thus, you need the confidence in yourself and stop wanting and begging and then lamenting why the universe is not dropping your ‘wants’ in your lap. (It is because you are running around in your head too fast to align with the universe’s energy of giving and being open to receiving.)

Simply think of your desires, trust and give thanks that your cup will be filled in due time and let go, while you do the necessary tasks to align with the universe to deliver it.

  • Be patient with yourself and the process. Manifesting and receiving takes time. The universe was not created over night and Rome was not built in a day.


Many people give up only a few steps before the finish line because they have decided that if it is not working by now, it will never work. Little do they know that everything is in order to manifest. Worse still are those who throw in more and more energy because they think that with more resources, the results will come faster. This belief is analogous of expecting nine mothers to conceive and deliver a baby in one month. Nor will cookies bake in half the time by doubling the temperature. They will be charred black. You can prove this one easily.  

The Secret, there is that word again, is to relax and be patient. Remember that you too, as part of the universe, are also governed by the universal laws, and you cannot change the natural development and flow. When you remember this, you will be less likely to work yourself up into frustration and disappointment, or worse, push yourself into the downward spiral of negativity. In simple terms – everything has a gestation period and this fact will not change no matter what resources or demands you place on it.

  • Support, Nurture and Educate Yourself:


Like you were when you were learning to walk, you needed support and nurturing. You also needed guidance on how to do it, such as; someone holding your hand.

The majority of people give up because they think that ‘The Secret,’ meant that things manifest as if by magic. Still others believe ‘The Secret,’ was the ‘be all and end all’ solution. The Secret is a small portion. It was never intended and has never been, the whole answer. Coming to the conclusion that the Law of Attraction does not work when all you did to educate yourself was to watch ‘The Secret’ twenty times (without looking at changing your habits that are counter productive) is like coming to the conclusion that exercising is not effective to lose weight because you ran on the treadmill for two hours one day – while still eating fried food, a high carbohydrate diet and desserts.

Be hungry for and seek new knowledge to achieve what you desire. Make an effort to be among people or groups where you can support each other, learn from each other and also share knowledge.

While the Law of Attraction is not delivered overnight, it will indeed be delivered, if you do your part too in the most effective way without giving up at the least sign of travail.

Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, Metaphysician – Certified Hypnosis and Regression Practitioner, Author and Speaker. Dr. Dorothy facilitates clearing blocks, fears and limiting beliefs. You can live the life you desire. She brings awareness to concepts not typically obvious to one’s thoughts and feelings.