Everyone faces failure and disappointments at some points in their lives. No one is exempt. Why then, do some people seemingly breeze through life with ease and others struggle or become stuck in a revolving door? The old axiom, ‘Seven years of bad luck,” comes to mind’.
The secret is there is a step-by-step system to learn how to benefit from the failures that many people use to breeze through a ‘perceived’ failure.
Napoleon Hill said, “Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.”
This means that if you can learn to remain open to the idea that every failure – even the biggest ones – present an opportunity for growth, that you can leverage the failures to reach success.
The majority of people become disillusioned and discouraged and quit. Those who seemingly breeze through life, develop another plan to reach their goal. The cliché “The Tough Get Going When The Going Gets Tough,” is apropos. Did you know Henry Ford went bankrupt three times before he was able to get his arms around the ins and outs of mass producing an automobile? As a result Henry Ford invented the assembly line concept, the first entrepreneur to do so. You can learn the skill of Mental toughness.
Here is the mindset to adopt…
- Failure is NOT a problem. It’s what we DO with failure that can become a problem… or not!
- Failure is NOT an option.
- Failure is a stepping stone to success.
Learn to Fail faster and learn powerfully:
There are three steps to move through a ‘perceived’ failure, so that you can have failure without failure to achieve your desires/goals.
You can use failure as fuel to help you to fail faster, thus allowing yourself to move toward your goals and dreams with greater speed and ease.
1. See failure as feedback.
You can either consciously or unconsciously choose what failure means to you.
A reporter asked Thomas Edison, how he managed to keep going after he failed so many times to create the first commercially practical incandescent light bulb.
Edison answered, “I have not failed. I’ve found 1,000 ways that won’t work. I only need to find one that works. Therefore, I keep devising another way.”
WOW! that’s a healthy view of failure, wouldn’t you say?
So instead of making yourself wrong when you have a glitch, let yourself know that the first step to truly transform failure into something useful and valuable is to simply CHOOSE to look at the “failure” as important and significant feedback.
2. Ask yourself, “What can I learn from this?”
Yes, ask yourself that question out loud or in your mind. Look for the gift in your perceived failure. You know the cliché, “There is a silver lining in every cloud.”
If your thoughts are usually something like this, hear the negativity and giving up mentality.
“What are you talking about–gift in this experience? There’s no gift in this experience. This is failure and it’s horrible! I’ll probably be the laughing stock.”
Napoleon Hill said,
“Every adversity, every failure, every heartache carries with it the seed of an equal or greater benefit.”
And I say, “Every seed needs to be found, planted, nourished and grown so that a healthy crop can be harvested.” Truth-be-known sometimes you need to plant a lot of seeds to get the crop yield you desire.
The secret to transform your failure into a success, you first need to change your thoughts about the situation, circumstance or condition by asking yourself what you can learn. Instead of lamenting and catastrophizing it, Remember it is feedback. Step into discovery mode.
- At what point did it go off track?—remember it might not be the obvious point. Look deep.
- Who did what when?
- Go back to the drawing board, review the process, and devise a new plan.
- Take action on the good that you found and remind yourself that no matter what, you can absolutely start over and create whatever it is that you desire to create.
- Repeat to yourself,
-“It’s okay to experience failure, I am not a failure, and this moment is my moment to make a fresh start.”
–Avoid blaming outside forces for why you don’t have the results you want in life. Go through the three steps!
-When I need to go through the three-step process several times, that’s okay!
3. Re-patterning and reprogramming your mindset is an ongoing process.
When you stay repetitive with these steps, and compassionately hold yourself responsible for creating the life you truly love living, you’ll help yourself move toward your goals and dreams with unprecedented ease and speed.
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