What is a good book to give someone living with a narcissist and really don’t know what is going on?

The most comprehensive book on Narcissism and how to mitigate the fallout is The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize It and How to Respond (3rd edition) by Patricia Evans

You will learn the reasons verbal abuse is more widespread than ever, and how you can mitigate it. You’ll get more of the answers you need to recognize abuse when it is in action, respond to abusers safely and appropriately, and most important, lead a happier, healthier life.

Evans reveals the Outside Stresses driving the rise in verbal abuse–and shows you how you can mitigate the devastating effects on your relationships. Evans also outlines the Levels of Abuse that characterize this kind of behavior–from subtle, insidious put-downs that can erode your self-esteem to full-out tantrums of name-calling, screaming, and threatening that can escalate into physical abuse.

Drawing from hundreds of real situations suffered by real people like you, Evans offers strategies, sample scripts, and action plans designed to help you deal with the abuse–and the abuser.

Yes, you did. No, I didn’t.

In a nonjudgmental, easy-to-read narrative, Evans explains how to revitalize and reshape your relationship.

“Avoid deluding yourself into thinking that you have the ability to stay serene no matter how you are treated. Your serenity comes from the knowledge that you have a fundamental right to a nurturing environment and a fundamental right to affirm your boundaries. “Not to know is bad; not to wish to know is worse.” — Nigerian Proverb

“In a verbally abusive relationship, the partner learns to tolerate abuse without realizing it and to lose self-esteem without realizing it. She/He is blamed by the abuser and becomes the scapegoat. The partner is then the victim.”

Having worked with many people who revitalized their relationship with a verbally abusive partner, I can attest to the effectiveness of assertive responses and staying strong, focused, and calm.

Peace of mind and heart.

I am here only to be truly helpful.


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