At the end of a project during the pause between achievements, many people question what their life is about. Who am I? What value do I bring to the world? Am I appreciated? And the list goes on.
The elation that accompanies any achievement, learning something important, or a breakthrough sometimes prompts people to feel let down. During this transition period some people feel unsure and seemingly are in limbo not knowing where to turn next. Many people during the period between achievements wonder; ‘What is my purpose in life?’ This is common for the majority of people, who bring these thoughts and feelings to the surface.
Western cultures are more focused on ‘doings’ rather than ‘being.’ Thus, the transition period between projects can be disquieting and to some; a period of quiet desperation. There is nothing inherently wrong spending a day, week, or even a month simply ‘being’ rather than having a well laid plan of busyness. Allow yourself to be.
Some people experience the quiet time between ideas, projects and goals as a period of emptiness. After accomplishing one goal, you might want to immediately move into the next. However, when your next project is yet to be determined, you may feel frustrated, disconnected, or feel out of touch with yourself, or you might perceive the lull in your schedule as an indicator of imminent stagnation. This sense of limbo, when reported to a Primary Care Doctor is often labeled depression, and antidepressant drugs are prescribed.
To prevent these distressing thoughts, learn to accept that if your intent is personal growth, you will continue to grow whether striving for a specific goal or not. Most importantly personal growth can be achieved as much through a lull in your activities as during the goal achievement drive. Your personal growth during this period can be to learn to enjoy ‘chilling and relaxing’ for a period of time. Learn to reflect, renew and regroup for the next project ahead.
Spending time immersed in life’s rigors as well as the pleasures between goals can be a cathartic experience that gives you the time you need to think about what you have recently learned and leisurely contemplate what you wish to do next. You may also find that in simply being and going through the different life experiences, you reconnect with your priorities in a natural organic unforced style.
This mindful transitional pause can take many forms. For some, it is a period of reflection that helps them understand how their life has unfolded. For others, it can be a period of adjustment, whereby new values based on changes are integrated into their life. Simply because you are not headed swiftly to a final destination does not mean you need to assume that you have lost your drive or zest for life. The stage between continuing on your journey can become a wonderful period of relaxation that prepares you for a path that will soon be revealed to you.
Dorothy M. Neddermeyer, PhD, Metaphysician – Certified Hypnosis Practitioner, Author and Speaker. Dr. Dorothy facilitates clearing blocks, fears and limiting beliefs. You can live the life you desire. She brings awareness to concepts not typically obvious to one’s thoughts and feelings. https://drdorothy.net