To become the success story you desire is easier than you believe.
Almost two in five (37%) people in the United States believe that the American Dream is less attainable today than it was for previous generations. Fewer (29%) believe it’s more attainable today than it was for prior generations, while 16 percent say it’s no more or less attainable now. 
The reason for this diverse belief about attaining one’s dreams is because the majority of people have not been taught about the hidden map. Everyone has a hidden map inside that is waiting to guide us to our dreams, step-by-step-by-step, with ease and elegance!
This inner map is the real secret to making positive thinking and hard work, work for you, so you can accomplish more of your goals, in less time, and begin to embody the vibrant life you deserve and desire.
You’ve probably heard of this map by name before, but knowing it by name doesn’t give you access to it. Allow me to illuminate the 6 keys to ultimate success.
1. Decide What Success Means to You
Is success having enough money or more money than you might ever need that allows you to feel and judge yourself a success? Is it having a beautiful house worth more than $2,000,000 in an expensive housing area?
Is it about having a loving partner who supports you in your endeavors? Do you equally support each other?
Is it through the tertiary education roadmap that you only feel valid you can make a meaningful and successful contribution to help the world economy turn? Is that your definition of success or is it someone else’s? Maybe your mom’s or your dad’s?
When her daughter Christina found her on the floor of her office, in a pool of blood having hit her head and breaking her cheekbone as she fell, CEO of Thrive Global and celebrated author of Thrive, Ariana Huffington had a wake-up call in more ways than one.
The exhaustion and overwhelming stress which had led to her fainting drove Huffington to radically introduce new work ethics, values, and rules she believed were the only legitimate rules.
More than two decades after her fall, Huffington still leads the conversational charge amongst global leaders to change the badge of honor that successful people need to work 24/7, and give everything of themselves and more, even if it means compromising their health.
As opposed to letting power and money be the two measurements of success, she explains wisdom, well-being, wonder and giving will bring you greater success by nurturing your psychological well-being.
We can’t argue with Huffington that without that, we are proverbially dead in the water.
Warren Buffet stated the way he defines success nowadays has nothing to do with money:
“I measure success by how many people love me.”
You will fall in love with the wisdom and nobility these words reflect, but keeping it as your only definition of success is foolhardy. Lacking today’s wisdom at 20 years of age, would Buffet have had the same definition of success?
Think about where you are on your journey. You are likely to have different goals and different measures of success as you navigate your roadmap. Huffington and Buffet explain non-tangible ideas of success are crucial for our overall success.
Let’s also not forget though that through tenacity, persistence, and many other success habits, these business leaders also rate extremely high on the power and money metrics. However, that’s not all there is to it.
If you are not sure how you would answer if someone asked you what your definition of success is, here are some clues to get you thinking and feeling.
As your head hits the pillow and before you close your eyes, what’s most important is that you can internalize that you have chosen your definition of success and you can full responsibility and accountability for deciding upon it.
2. Review Your Progress and Satisfaction in Life
Review the main areas of your life. Not only those where you feel you need to make changes. Review all of them:
- Your career vocation or business life;
- Your relationships – your intimate or life partner, family, and friends;
- Money health and financial management strategies;
- Commitment to your faith or religion and spiritual personal development;
- Your physical and mental health;
What leisure or recreational activities do you pursue for fun to energize your spirit and enrich your soul?
Do you have ideas of what success looks like for you in each of these areas?
Neglecting to look at even one area is like expecting to restore function to a beautifully crafted Swiss watch, whilst failing to attend to a rusty-looking cog in the tiny internal workings that needs attention. Turn one cog, the others all turn. Ignore a damaged one, the system malfunctions.
For each area, give yourself a rating out of ten – one signifies the least satisfaction and ten signifies the most – and ask yourself the following questions to help you start identifying what’s important to you:
- How satisfied or content with this area of my life am I presently?
- Where would I like to live this current level of contentment to?
- What would that new level of satisfaction look like, feel like?
- How important is this area compared with the other areas of my life?
Regardless of what areas you recognize that need to be your core focus, consider making personal development and improvements to your physical and mental health, and well-being a constant feature of your action plan.
You will need to continually recognize obstacles you’ll face from your outside world, as well as those internal psychological battles that will arise from within.
Without your mental and physical health intact, it’s unlikely the rest of the ‘cogs’ are going to turn properly.
3. Understand Your Values and Priorities
Avoid making the mistake of thinking goal setting can be done in one sitting. You want to make sure the pursuits you put down on paper aren’t fly-by-night moments of excitement that ebb and flow with the rise and fall of tidal trends.
Become better at identifying your priorities by exploring how you feel about each of your life areas. Think about the ratings of satisfaction you might have denoted for each. And now write down what you want to be, do and have.
Put aside your initial literary ramblings and revisit them in a couple of weeks or one month. Without looking at your initial thoughts, do the process again and see what consistencies show up. What keeps coming up as feeling important? Around what ideas is there the same yearning or emotional pull?
If you’re unsure about what you feel you wish to head towards, be in allowance of this. Don’t be jumping to quickly fill the void. The desperation is likely to have you catching the tail of the last exciting concept in fear of missing out or trying to fill the void of excitement you yearn for.
Increase your practice of pausing and asking yourself:
Why does this resonate with me? Could this be a distraction that complicates the route I have mapped out? Am I becoming that person who proverbially chases two rabbits and catches none?
In his book The Heart of Love, Dr. John Demartini explains how becoming strongly aware of your values and priorities helps you understand why you are and where you are in your life at any given moment.
If you don’t know what you believe you stand for, look at where you direct your time, energy, and attention. Look at your behavior and work backward.
You might think making money and creating financial wealth is high on your radar. However, if you spend more than you earn and allocate money to depreciating objects as opposed to appreciating assets, your behavior is inconsistent with those typical of someone who is financially astute.
Look back to your areas of life and ask yourself if the goals you have set are in alignment with your values. Look at your daily behaviors and ask yourself if the way you operate satisfies steps that take you further toward those goals.
If not, all is not lost. You’ve simply got some harsh truths and reality checks to face before you can go any further on your roadmap to success.
4. Work with a Success Coach
You have to come to terms with the fact that you’re likely to be swimming against the tide.
Once you make clear unwavering decisions about what goals you’re aiming for, prepare to be un-liked, unpopular, criticized, and potentially ostracized. There’s a high possibility you’ll lose the friendship and support of some however you will gain new friends and the support of others.
Regardless of what area of life your goals pertain to, make room to work with a coach. Choose wisely who that person will be to encourage and walk beside you.
Whether it be a certified coach, a family friend/mentor, or a qualified business mentor, find someone who knows how to work with the specific issues and challenges that lay ahead without any agenda other than your success.
Having that impartial guide can be an invaluable constant. This helps keep you on the straight and narrow even if other areas of your life aren’t going swimmingly.
5. Become Intimately Familiar with Your Habits and Behaviors
Despite the scientific evidence in support of it, we’re not recommending you need to start getting up at 5:00 am and exercising for an hour before you even think about starting your day.
You need to ask yourself these questions more frequently:
- How well do you know your habits and routine ways of operating?
- Do you know what choices and patterned behaviors help or hinder you?
You know what you want to work on. Greater clarity on your values has enabled you to discern which priorities are high on your list and which ones are low. It’s now time to reinforce and reward the habits that carry you forward on your roadmap to success, and adjust those habits which delay or divert you from staying on course.
Remember that part of the joy of the human experience is to be fallible, so don’t suddenly shelve all those character-building ‘vices’. Your flaws are a necessary part of your unique success jigsaw puzzle; they are the inspiring reasons you’re going on this journey in the first place.
Demartini and New York Times journalist and author Charles Duhigg both explain in their books how recognizing your unhelpful behavioral patterns needs to take place first. You identify the emotional and psychological rewards which rule over whether you sustain, break or make a new habit.
When you know the rewards that light you up like a Christmas tree, you link them to new or modified habits that support values you want to make a higher priority. you love eating out. You love artisan cuisine and get giddy at watching the episode of Heston Blumenthal creating chocolate water in his food chemistry laboratory. As much as you say you want to increase your investment in appreciating assets, your spending habits speak otherwise.
For example, you might start looking for discount opportunities to higher-end dining. The dishes may not rival Heston’s masterpieces, but your taste buds still enjoy a culinary roller coaster AND you also know to get feel-good allocating the discounted amount to a saving’s program.
Your tummy is singing as is your bank account. The whole experience goes well beyond short-term gratification and satisfies several values and goals.
Tweaking habits and forming new ones isn’t difficult; it’s a matter of finding a happy experience. Take time to find it. There are many ways to achieve your success.
6. Celebrate Your Wins and Monitor Your Progress Along the Way
You need to become good at deliberately rewarding yourself when you make changes that take you further along your roadmap to success.
Professor of cognitive neuroscience Dr. Tali Sharot explains how the brain responds and adapts far better to rewards than punishment when it comes to learning behavior and creating new habits.
When we apply punishment, we reinforce the traumatic memory as being more important than the actual lesson we might have been meant to learn in the first place.
When we gamify rewards on our success journey, we inject fun and humor. We also reduce the stress that often comes with learning new things, habits and adjusting to new ways of being, doing, and having.
Last, but not least
If you hit a progress plateau at any point, allow yourself to plateau and switch your attention to another priority.
The switch will allow you to think more freely and clearly about how to move past your roadblock. Or it might be a good time to stop and smell the roses.
Your muscles grow stronger in their resting phase after a workout. Animals hunt profusely to build up their energy stores before going into hibernation.
Remember that continually forging ahead is not a natural rhythm. Repeat the cycle of rest, recovery, and rallying forward then…start again.