Fear is the most prominent emotion that holds people back each day from achieving high levels of happiness and success. Which one of these prominent fears hold you back?
- Fear of the unknown.
- Judgement from others.
- Fear of failure.
- Fear of success.
- Fear of not being good enough.
- Fear of not knowing how.
- Fear of it taking too long.
- Fear of ??
Surprisingly, even highly successful people experience fear occasionally while they endeavor to transform their dreams into reality.
How do they move through their fear and stay on track toward their dreams?
To move confidently in the direction of your dreams consider these strategies:
1. Awareness. Before you can begin overcoming fear, you need to be aware that your fears are causing havoc in your life. It’s easy to become attached to your beliefs, thoughts and feelings that you think your perception is all that exists. You create your fears and you are not your fears. You experience what you believe. If you don’t believe that you experience what you believe, then you don’t, which still means the first statement is true.
2. Identify. Get specific about the your fear(s) are. Look at the pictures you have in your head about the situation. What is happening in them? What are you really afraid about? Become an observer of your inner beliefs and thoughts. Beliefs = Thoughts = Feelings = Actions or Inaction.
3. Curiosity. While curiosity may have killed the cat, it certainly won’t do you any harm when investigating your fears. Get curious about what beliefs and thoughts generate your fear, where do you feel the fear, and how do you react to it? Be an observer of your beliefs, thoughts, feelings and actions or inaction.
4. The Now. What are you lacking right now? When you center yourself in the now, you realize that everything is how it IS. You naturally accept what is. Tapping into the now can be as simple as feeling your body and breath. My favorite book on the subject is Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle.
5. Sedona Method. A simple system to conquer fear is the Sedona method. It consists of asking a few simple questions while focusing on your fear. It might seem so simple that you might dismiss it. Bad move! Ask: What is the worst case scenario? How odes fear prevent me from achieving my goals?
6. The Work. The Work is similar to the Sedona method in that it asks questions. The Work is a powerful way of working through fears, anxieties, and worries. There are many methods available, so pick the one that you resonate with.
7. Hypnosis. With hypnosis, you can program the right thoughts into your mind and eliminate negative beliefs and thoughts. Many people use hypnosis to consistently evoke positive change in their life. Remember, you are learning to relate to life’s vicissitudes in a different way.
8. Gratitude. Whenever you feel fear, switch to what you are grateful for. If you’re afraid of public speaking, be grateful for the opportunity to communicate with many people at once, and that they are there to genuinely listen to your expertise, skills and knowledge.
9. Journaling. Writing your fears on paper is important, because working to think them through doesn’t work. You get caught in endless loops of negativity that only lead you further down the rabbit hole, and make your life miserable.
10. Talk. No-brainer, right? But how often do you hold the negative in because you are afraid of how others might react, or because of some other reason? Talking helps, but don’t throw a pity party for yourself.
11. Deep Healing. Deep Healing is highly beneficial, and life-changing. Find a Deep Healing expert here. When human behavior is accessed and addressed at the cellular and metaphysical level, the ’cause’ of any and all symptoms and behavior become crystal clear–it is mental/emotional, physical, and spiritual trauma manifesting in the behavior and symptoms we witness. A Deep Healing process accessing an addressing the cellular and metaphysical issues is a clear, concise and direct method of transforming the mental, emotional and physical symptoms that transcends traditional protocols while retaining a professional focus. Deep Healing avoids prescription and OTC drugs, body parts removed, artificial hypnotic inductions and psychic interventions. The process ties in directly with the experiences and needs of the person. The process is down-to-earth, to-the-point, practical, fearless and with 30+ years experience and centuries of holistic health care protocol success I know there is no doubt Deep Healing is effective. I offer a 20-minute FREE, no obligation conversation to answer your questions and explain the Deep Healing process.
12. Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP). NLP has helped many to eliminate phobias, fears, and other emotional issues. NLP might resonate with you.
13. Life Coach. Do you have a fear of success, or a fear of failure? A Certified Life Coach can help you examine what you truly want from life, and how to transform your fears to enthusiasm.
14. Read. Reading a book on your specific fear can open new doors on how you can transform it. Read motivational and inspirational work on and around the topic you’re struggling with.
15. Take Action. Fears are thoughts you created. They are created by your imagination. When you take action and face your fears, they become weaker, because you realize that reality isn’t nearly as bad as your imagination.
16. Watching a movie or a documentary. Seeing how others have resolved fear or other issues is as enlightening as reading a book. Sometimes it’s effective to distract yourself from your fear, but if you really want to, you can find dozens of movies on the fear you’re dealing with.
17. Food Plan. Did you know that the food you eat can have a dramatic impact on how you feel? All the sugars, additives, sweeteners, Genetically Modified Organisms (GMO) and other chemicals in food have a surprisingly powerful effect in getting your body out of balance. Stick to a clean food plan–Eat Right For Your Blood Type.
18. Positivity. Whenever conjure up fear, flip it over. Instead of thinking of something bad that can happen, think of something positive. What’s a positive outcome to your fear? If you’re thinking about public speaking, imagine/ visualize yourself being wildly successful instead of failing horribly. This is similar to #8, but with a twist.
19. Perspective. Learn to STOP putting fear is all about switching your negative thoughts to positive thoughts. When you focus on the negative, look at all the positive options. There are more positive options than negative options and you will realize that it is easier to think positive than negative.
20. Let Go. Letting go of fear will empower you to find the positive, because as long as you are in negative thoughts you are in war with reality. To learn more about how to Let Go, I recommend you read Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life, Byron Katie with Stephen Mitchel and Love Is Letting Go Of Fear, Gerald Jampolsky.
21. Your Story. You tell yourself a story about your fear. If you’re afraid that no one will like your writing, you tell yourself a story (in your head) about how you’ll fail horribly, people will laugh at you, or even worse, no one will read what you have to say. What’s your story about your fear(s)?
22. Release Control. You know you want to learn how to eliminate fear. You want predictability, even though it’s impossible to achieve. When you don’t have control, you experience fear. But is it ever possible to have control of anything? Even if you are a expert swimmer, you can drown. A professional guitar player can make mistakes and miss a note or hit the wrong note. Give up the illusion of control, and you’re free to be perfectly imperfect.
23. Help. Be kind to others. If you’re shy, focus on helping people instead of being self-conscious about how you look or sound when you talk. Flip it on other people and make yourself feel good. This is similar to #15.
24. Meaning. The experiences you create are what you need to promote mental, emotional and spiritual growth. That includes the fears you create. The fear is a message to look deeper to the cause. The message also includes fear and learning the lessons that come out of it. When you look back at the challenges and fears in your life, you will see that more often than not, they delivered exactly the message you needed at that time.
25. Role Model. Find someone who has created the success you desire. Learn how she/he achieved it. Or read books written about achieving the success you desire. Eleanor Roosevelt, former First Lady has been my role model since I was 9-years old and began reading her column in Lady’s Home Journal, listening to her radio program, interviews and reading about her career in magazines and books. Eleanor Roosevelt was one of the most-admired first ladies of all time. And in the 50 years since her death, she has been endlessly quoted. No surprise, considering how quotable many of her wise words are. One of my favorite Eleanor quotes is:
“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.”
26. Intuition. Your gut feeling–a.k.a. 6th sense. You can access you intuition through meditation or mindfulness. In the end, it doesn’t matter what you choose, as long as it works for you.
27. WTWTCH. What’s the worst that could happen? If you’re afraid of public speaking, imagine yourself on a stage with everyone laughing at you. How do you feel afterward? You’re still alive, aren’t you? Life goes on and so can you.
28. Yoga. Energy can get trapped in your body. When you do Yoga and breathe, that trapped energy can be released. Sometimes you release parts of your fears, or you might even find that you’ve dropped a few fears without even noticing after a few months of Yoga.
29. Ask. Your feelings are there to tell you something, ask what the purpose of them is. Ask your heart, God, the universe, or whatever you feel comfortable with. What are your fears trying to tell you?
30. Understand Failure. Perceived failure is feedback that doing it this way won’t work. When you realize your failure is feedback you become free. Failure is a stepping stone to success. And most of your fears are fear of failure, shame, or somehow not living up to the standards you were indoctrinated and conditioned to believe you needed to live up to.
31. Explore The Root Cause. What is the root cause of your propensity to create the fear? This may require meditation or the assistance of a Deep Healing practitioner. Look inside and ask yourself when the fear started. If you’re afraid of public failure for example, what did you experience that is now manifesting the fear? Were you shamed in public when you were growing up? Were you given more responsibility than your knowledge and experience could give you confidence in taking such responsibility?
32. Breathe. Your breath can set you free. Take a deep breath down to your belly button. A deep breathe brings oxygen to the brain and breaks your thoughts you were thinking. It anchors you in the now and helps you STOP creating and overcome your most pervasive fears.
33. And Please Remember: Whatever fears you create, remember that the only thing that matters is that you listen to yourself, and the truth of the matter fear is False Evidence Appearing Real.
Now you are armed with 33 ways to eliminate your monkey mind’s propensity to create fear use them for your well being and success.