Each one of us has unique gifts. These gifts become better as you go through your unique life experiences. Recognizing your gifts and deciding how to express them is one of the most important accomplishments in your life.
Pain is a catalyst for transformation. Yet most people would say they prefer pleasure instead of pain. This means that when they feel good, they often do not have a lot of motivation to grow, question and discover new aspects of themselves. People who are comfortable maintaining the status quo have become complacent in their lives.
Being critical and judgmental of oneself is one of the key components of human ego consciousness that is the most damaging. Your propensity of criticism and judgment are both overt and subtle. Recognizing that you are being critical and judgmental is half the battle of changing it.
Many people suffer with a need or compulsion to apologize for many things. On the one hand, apologizing is a social convention, that keeps interactions between people polite, and in that way it is helpful. On the other hand, if you apologize for everything, it is detrimental to your well-being and the other person(s).