Your decisions contribute to your development and are an integral aspect of your evolving journey, yet, they are separate from who you truly are. A decision that fails to produce the intended outcome is in no way a confirmation of your character. Albeit, there can be dire effects on your ability to trust yourself and maintain your self-esteem. You can avoid becoming your decisions by affirming that a ‘bad decision’ is an experience and you can choose differently, next time. You need to avoid lingering in the past and mulling over the circumstances that led to your perceived error in judgment.
Being critical and judgmental of oneself is one of the key components of human ego consciousness that is the most damaging. Your propensity of criticism and judgment are both overt and subtle. Recognizing that you are being critical and judgmental is half the battle of changing it.
Anytime you look at something and you are not at peace, you need to recognize that you have the power to choose again. ‘A Course in Miracles,’ states, “I have decided wrongly because I am not at peace, I can choose again.’