Victim thoughts and feelings prevent you from changing your circumstances or creating a sense of feeling better. When you have a frustrating or terrible experience, you need to have time to process your thoughts and feelings. It is important to avoid pretending that all is well. However, it is also important to notice when you are indulging in a pity party.
Given enough time everyone will become aware that what they reflect on has a direct consequence in their lives. Unfortunately, few people are guided to do Self-Reflection and are bombarded from an early age by what they ‘should’ do. The result is that what they sometimes say they believe (their indoctrination) obscures what they truly believe.
The pious and maybe even self-righteous perspective that one cannot obtain enlightenment and have abundance simultaneously continues to entangle spiritual seekers world wide. It is perplexing when one considers this toxic idea that if a person is spiritual they cannot also be prosperous. How exactly does one obtain spiritual enlightenment without overcoming limited thinking that binds and diminishes? The belief that enlightenment and abundance are polar opposites binds and diminishes.
Is Karma coming back to haunt you? Are you allowing Karma to be a Self punishing experience? Do you believe that no matter what you do Karma is your fate because you were not meant to have a great life?
These are the million dollar questions you need to ask your Self. Is Karma a debilitating Belief System that keeps you in an endless loop of punishment? So what is that about? Is Karma about Self punishment? Is Karma about a continuous continuing continuum of sentencing your Self to Self-Retribution? If this is what works for you, then, ‘enjoy’ it. Are the ramifications of the not being worthy, not good enough and not smart enough syndrome the pay off to being less than perfect?
No matter what your age, from the ‘terrible two’s to the stressful forties’ (often referred to as a mid-life crises) everyone desires to be treated as competent and capable, recognized for their strengths and good intentions, rather than shortcomings, foibles and mistakes. Everyone values his/her thoughts, feelings and needs to be respected and included in the decision making process for the issues that directly involve and impact them. In short, everyone values autonomy and wants to express him/herself and be in command of his/her life.
The ‘terrible two’s’ label was coined because a child begins